Karen Gorman

I became a foster carer in 2013 and have fostered 9 children over the years from a baby who was just 7 weeks to a 16 year old. I have worked with children since I was 18 years old, firstly as a nanny, going on to do my early years qualifications and most recently working on a maternity ward. I saw first-hand the children who leave hospital and go into foster situations so I knew I wanted to support those children making their way in the world.

At first the process seemed daunting, but I found out as much information as possible and what fostering options might suit my family. Once we were assigned a social worker from Fife Council, the process took around 6 months. It allowed us time to get to know our social worker, for them to understand our family and get everything in place to welcome a child into our home. With 3 children of my own, I had reservations how they would react, but I learnt quickly kids are resilient. The experience has taught them compassion and understanding.

When we were first matched with a child, I don’t think I slept that night, as you want to make sure they are comfortable. My journey with fostering has had its challenges but countless rewarding experiences, from seeing the children achieve educational milestones, eating solid food or being terrified of water then progressing to level 4 in swimming.

The Fife fostering community is truly special — it really is a community. We are all here to help with advice, sharing our experiences or to just grab a coffee. Through the Facebook page, I have met loads of foster carers in the area and it’s great to have that additional support network and a place for people to learn more about fostering. The support my supervisor and the children’s social worker has been fantastic.

The biggest things I have learnt through fostering is that child needs you to be vocal for them to make sure they have everything they need. You are an advocate for your child, you have to be their voice. You are making a difference to their lives but they have also made the biggest difference to me and my family, those hand-drawn pictures, sweet cards of appreciation and watching them flourish is the best feeling.

I encourage anyone thinking about fostering to go for it! Speak to your local council for more information, take your time to ask as many questions about the process and the fostering options available. There is no judgment, they are looking for carers from all walks of life. As long as you have a caring heart and know it won’t always be easy. Your social worker will keep you right and make sure you are matched properly when possible and it will be the most rewarding thing you ever do.